![]() Once I started having sex, the first few times were just one night stand-like situations where a date wasn’t even involved. When I first started dating at 19, I still hadn’t had sex so I went on a couple of dates but didn’t sleep with them because I usually didn’t even make it to the end of the date without freaking out and making an excuse to leave. I’ve had a pretty fraught relationship with this. Coincidentally, that is also how my current relationship started. Usually, to be honest, most of my dates before my current relationship came about through one night stands, and so we'd have slept together before our first date, and then typically after. I don't think I have ever waited before having sex with someone on a date. Women enjoy sex just as much as men and if both people want to have sex that night then there’s no reason they should deny themselves that. ![]() In saying that though, that idea is bullshit because it’s just another aspect of patriarchy, right? Women are meant to be seen as respectful and that we don’t have sexual urges, we’re not interested in sex and the only way to win a man is by living up to that ideal when everyone knows it’s not true. I’ve definitely thought about whether or not I should wait, because it’s such a prevalent idea that I think it’s hard not to think about it. I don’t see why we should have to wait if that’s what you want to do. If I feel like I want to have sex with the person I’m on a date with and they want to have sex with me - I’ll have sex with them. Or, read about the bizarre new sex trend - astral projection. Want more? Check out this woman’s night with an oral sex stimulator (!!). I spoke to five millennial women about how they felt about the topic: if they wait to have sex when they start dating someone, and if so, for how long or if not, why not? I also asked about whether they ever thought about the idea that ‘it’s better to wait’ or if it’s well and truly dead in the water. But has that led to a genuine shift in people just getting it on as soon as they want to or is there residual anxiety - and internalised misogyny – for women around being thought of differently if they do sleep with someone on the first date? We’ve obviously moved past the prehistoric sexist notion that a woman should wait, lest she be considered a harlot and ultimately tainted. More broadly, it also raises the question of ‘waiting’ to have sex when you start dating someone. Contestants on Australian Bachelor don’t have sex on the show, and that moment reminded us all of just how painful that would become by the time you’re down to the top three. ![]() In the latest season of The Bachelor, People’s Champion Abbie Chatfield broke the fourth wall when she said aloud, ‘I’m so horny’ while on a one-on-one date with Bachie Matt Agnew. "If you’ve been on four dates and then they end up being a dud lay – what a waste of time!" ![]()
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